Gender norms and coercion play an important role for situations like the one Judith Butler describes in the YouTube clip, "phylosophe" because it describes certain behaviors that our society considers inappropriate and unacceptable, and for this reason most people feel the need to stare, judge, and sometimes persuade the person to do something against their will by using threats. Many people hide who they are because they fear of not being accepted by others, and most of all, they fear for their own safety. Butler says, "If someone says you must comply with the norm of masculinity, otherwise you will die,...then we have to start to question what the relation is between complying with gender and coercion", this comment stood out to me because I live with people who have that mentality that men and women must behave and act a certain way. As a kid, I was very tom-boyish, and growing up I was told to not act that way or else boys wouldn't want to date me, I had to buy blouses instead of t-shirts, I couldn't do outside chores only the chores that involved me being inside the house, and I had to wear make up everyday to "present myself nicely". The boys in my family must always be strong and tough because where my dad and uncles grew up, which was in Mexico, many homosexual boys are beaten up and often killed because they do not follow the appropriate behaviors of being a "man". Of course my parents were a little open minded and didn't change their kids that much, but from this I do understand why certain individuals would feel threatened. But no one should be killed or harmed for they way they talk and walk, there is no exception.